Tuesday, January 24, 2012

7 Money Rules for Life by Mary Hunt

I thoroughly enjoyed this book.  It outlines 7 financial principles that, when applied as a whole, will help anyone discover a life of financial freedom.  I read this book with my computer (financial software) beside me, ready to make changes to the budget as needed.  It was SO good.

Hunt comes at some topics with a Christian perpective which, for other Christians is helpful, but which, for non-Christians could easily be ignored and the book could still be found helpful.  What I'm saying is that while this book does have Christian values, it is not an overtly Christian book.  It would be a valuable read for anyone.

I typically enjoy books of this nature (and this is no exception) but even someone who has no interest in financial topics - but who perhaps needs a few financial hints - would find this book an easy ready.  It explains the "rules" plainly and thoroughly so that anyone could easily see how they could apply them to their life.

I highly recommend this book to anyone who handles money in any way, whether they are up to their eyeballs in debt, or living paycheque to paycheque, or sailing through life without a second thought financially.  It is that good.
 
"Book has been provided courtesy of Baker Publishing Group and Graf-Martin Communications, Inc.  Available at your favourite bookseller from Revell, a division of Baker Publishing Group".  
(I was under no obligation to provide a positive review)

Wednesday, January 18, 2012

Real Marriage: The Truth about Sex, Friendship and Life Together by Mark and Grace Driscoll

You'll either love it or hate it.  That's how I feel about this book after spending an evening with it.  Where do I come out?  Well, you'll have to keep reading to find out.
I was warned about this book and it didn't take me long to find out why.  By page 29, I was banging my head on a metaphorical wall, trying to figure out how I was going to make it through the rest of the book with an open mind.

Driscoll is fairly opinionated about specific gender roles and makes these opinions very clear.  In his chapter written to men, Driscoll tells men not to be "dumb" and to act like men.  Ok, fair enough.  Men should be men.  I agree.  But he also says that it is the man's job to provide enough income so that the woman does not have to work, but rather has everything she needs to stay at home with the children.  I quote, "A wife who finds a way to make money from home or without neglecting her first God-given responsibilities of Christian, wife, and mother is acceptable.  But men, you should make money.  You should feed your family."  He also tells men that if they want other men, their wives, and their children to respect them, they need to pay the bills.  Simple as that.  Well, life isn't always as simple as that.  This chapter is full of this and other "wake-up calls" to men that yes, are worth considering, but perhaps would do more harm than good to read.

Throughout the book, Driscoll includes Scripture references.  Wonderful!  I love when authors, pastors, TEACHERS back what they're saying with the Bible.  I took the time to look up many of the references on my trusty iPhone Bible app and was blown away by the interpretation of some of the passages.  Some of the verses were taken completely out of context and seemed to be stretched and twisted to somehow fit what Driscoll was trying to say.  I urge you to do your own research into the passages used and study the context surrounding them to understand what they are really saying.  Find a good commentary...

I noticed a few instances where something Driscoll writes contradicts with something earlier in the book.  For instance, Driscoll says that a marriage is about being mutually loving and then later in the book he says that a wife should submit to her husband because the husband is the head of the household (not SHOULD be the head, IS the head).  This gets quite concerning in sexual matters, as it isn't quite clear what this would mean when the husband and wife have different opinions on such topics.

I was cringing when I reached the "Sex" portion of the book, not really knowing what I would find inside.  I was pleasantly surprised, for the most part.  Driscoll's ideas about sex seemed fair and worth consideration.  At times he seemed to go a bit far, such as when he suggests that one should have sex with their spouse, despite not wanting to.  At the end of the book, there is a section that goes through various sexual acts and Driscoll lays out his thoughts (and "biblical" groundwork) on each.  I won't go into detail, but please, PLEASE read these with a grain of salt and talk to someone you trust such as a pastor or spiritual director if you are unclear or uncertain about anything that you see here.

Overall, I wouldn't say that this book was a COMPLETE waste of my evening, but I wouldn't say that it was the best use of my time either.  I found myself frustrated, annoyed, and disappointed that this book is getting all the press that it is.  With all of its contradictions, poor biblical interpretation, and unfair gender stereotypes, I find that even the good and helpful parts of this book get lost in the harmful and distinctly wrong ideas, leaving it doing more harm than good.  There are better options out there in terms of books on marriage (ask your pastor for suggesions), but if you want to read this book and see the "car crash" for yourself, by all means... 


"Advanced Reader's Copy of the book has been provided courtesy of Thomas Nelson and Graf-Martin Communications, Inc.
Available at your favourite bookseller from Thomas Nelson". 

Thursday, January 12, 2012

Love You More by Jennifer Grant

Love You More by Jennifer Grant is a beautifully written book that tells the story of the author's personal walk through adoption.  Every adoption story is worth hearing and this one is no exception.  Grant starts at the point where she heard/felt God telling her that their family would be growing and walks through the process, highs AND lows, and continues through to having her daughter home in her arms. 

As someone who has considered adoption myself, I thoroughly enjoyed this "sneak peek" into someone else's adoption story but I would also recommend this book to those who have never considered adoption for themeselves.  While this book is not written as an "instruction manual" for adoption, it does have a few tips for navigating the process, but it is also just a beautiful, interesting story of a growing family.

I highly recommend this book to anyone who enjoys hearing other's stories.  It is well written, a good read.

I received this book from Thomas Nelson's Booksneeze program but am under no obligation to provide a positive review.